guess what he said to me after just one date!

We all want to be happy.

So if you go on a date with a guy who says something that sounds magical for the first date, like….

“My job is transferring me to Miami in a few months and getting me an awesome apartment right on the beach. I want you to come with me, babe.”

Or “My best friend is getting married in Bora Bora next year, and I want you to be my date.”

“I know we’ve only had one date, but I have a great house in Nantucket. I’m going to the Nantucket Film Festival next week- you should spend the week with me!”  

If you like the guy, you’ll probably be over the moon. Most guys take their sweet time when it comes to inviting a girl on vacation, introducing her to his friends, bringing her to a wedding, etc. So if he doesn’t even know you that well yet, but he already likes you enough to make this huge gesture, he must think you’re really special, right??

Wrong. While it’s very flattering to hear things like this, when a guy makes an offer like this to a girl he doesn’t know that well yet, it means she fits the bill for whatever the “excursion” is- wedding date, Memorial Day Weekend travel buddy, starter girlfriend in new city. So congratulations on that. But if he’s ready to take you on vacation after he just met you- what do you think would happen if you said no? He’ll ask the very next girl he goes out with. You could be anyone.

Keep in mind that it is still a generous gesture when someone invites you on vacation, even if it’s very early in the relationship. Adventures with new guys can be fun, but always keep your eyes open in situations like this.  Think of all the possible reasons a guy might want to bring a girl who is essentially a stranger on vacation- long romantic walks on the beach are probably not at the top of that list ;)