People cancel dates all the time- sometimes for legit reasons, sometimes not. The text message above that I got from Zach was a very uncool cancellation - he had asked me out for this night several days in advance, but he cancelled just two hours before with the lamest excuse ever- "I realized I really shouldn't go out tonight." I still don't even know what that means.
There are many variations of Zach's text- "it's been a crazy day at work and it's going to be a crazy week/month/year," "Hey- leaving work and I'm not feeling great," etc. If you get a text like this, do not suggest another date- that is his responsibility. If a guy cancels on you and wants to see you again, he will be apologetic, and he will suggest an alternative date. Conversely, if you need to cancel a date with someone who you want to see again, your text to him should look something like this:
"Hey Tom. I'm so sorry, but I have to cancel our date Monday night. I'd really like to get together though- are you around Thursday by any chance? If not, would another night work?"
If you must cancel and want to see the guy again, just make sure to suggest another day so he knows you're not blowing him off.
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